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My family's Vegan journey!

Updated: Apr 21, 2023

Over a decade ago, I was the young mom of a 10 year old, a 7 year old and 2 year old. One day, out of nowhere my 7 year old asked me if what he was eating was “pluck-pluck chicken or… what?”

I found myself confused by the question and quickly responded - “yes mi lindo, it’s chicken nuggets.”

“Like the ones that have feet and feathers and a heart?” he asked

*gulp* I hesitated for a moment. “yep... just like that.”

He then proceeded to ask me “why do we eat chickens?” and “where’s the rest of him?”

I felt terrible and didn’t know how to answer his inquiries, so I did what most moms would do. I told him the same thing I had been told by my mom as though it was unequivocal truth.

I said “we need to eat animals, it’s healthy for us, that’s why they exist, for us to eat” but as the words came out of my mouth they triggered a deep feeling of unease.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but this very innocent conversation morphed into a challenge to prove to my son, and myself, that all of these statements were indeed true and that we were doing nothing wrong.

Kendrick around the time we had that life changing conversation-He's now 18.

I began to research, I read books and watch videos on the subject. I always knew there were vegetarians and I knew that animals must die in order for us to eat them, but I never really connected this knowledge to the grim reality. Coming to terms with this created a deep feeling of unease and heartbreak; I found out there’s a term for this - cognitive dissonance: “the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude changes.”

I continued to seek out information, I watched documentaries (I’ll include links below) and read several books like Animal Liberation by Peter Singer and this created the foundation on which I would base my eating choices moving forward but most importantly this specific encounter with my sweet young boy marked a beginning that completely changed the way I would perceive the world around me.

It was only a matter of months before I decided I would no longer eat animals and I would not feed them to my family. A few weeks later after learning about the dairy & egg industries, I also decided to remove all dairy, eggs and honey from our diet.

These decisions were grounded on firm ethical principles. After learning the truth of where our “food” comes from, we were unable to unsee or unlearn the harsh reality and our lives were forever changed. I believe that’s been the main reason that has contributed to our consistency in living a vegan lifestyle.

Yet, there are many reasons why people choose to leave behind meat, dairy and eggs and move to a plant based diet. For many this reason may be the environment, for others it may be their health, or to combat disease, for some it may be as simple as taste preference, or perhaps any combination of these. For my family and I, it was ethical, and spiritual.

Speaking of spiritual reasons, I’m amazed to see how more and more young children seem to have an innate dislike for meat and diary. It reminds me of the 100th monkey effect. Very interesting topic, definitely check it out!

Also, when I think of ethical reasons, I’m reminded that lactose intolerance affects around 70% of the world’s human population, the vast majority affected are BIPOC. Which begs the question about how nutritional guidelines may be hurting disproportionately people of color and minorities in the United States and across the world. You can read more about that here.

(Please check out all the links I’ve included above if you’d like to learn more, many of the films are available through popular platforms like Netflix and Hulu)
It's tough to get a picture of all of us together, here's my whole vegan family a few years ago

Considering ditching animal products? Feeling the need to make this kind of lifestyle change? Let me leave you with some lessons I learned and ways I found to ease the transition from status quo eating to conscious mindful eating.

  • Know your why - Like almost everything in life if you don’t know your reason why, you won’t see the importance of doing anything or following through with your choices. Understanding your reason why is pivotal to successfully changing your lifestyle, whether it’s how you consume food, media and conversations or staying motivated to do yoga, working out or spending time out in nature. Why will always be the driving force! I found myself constantly learning, watching footage that was painful to see but extremely important in order for me to stay on track with this complete overhaul of my family's day to day life. I love the work of Dr. Melany Joy and her concept of “carnism”. I found that educating myself became a work of love and a search for truth that extended to all other aspects of my life, which leads me to my second point.

  • Family - It’s so tough letting grandma know you won’t be eating that “arroz con pollo” or “cheese casserole” because you no longer eat animals or the things that come out of them! Be prepared to be looked at like you’ve grown a third head! Having a conversation with your loved ones as to why you are making this decision is key, but not always the end all. You will be confronted many times by loved ones that will want you to just try it and say things like “there’s only a little bit of milk” or “we’ve always eaten meat”. Be prepared, by continuing to educate yourself on the topic, to communicate the reasons for your new life choices; not once but multiple times, maybe several times in one night! Try and lead by example and be patient and kind.

  • Cooking at home - While everyone in my family was adjusting to this new found knowledge and way of eating, I had the heavy task of cooking vegan meals at home. 10 years ago there weren’t a hole lot of vegan dine out options! Getting inspiration was huge for me here, you will be introduced to many ingredients you may have never even known about, like tempeh, tofu, nutritional yeast, and so many new vegetables and fruits. You’ll learn to use other ingredients in different ways too. For example the liquid in the can of chickpeas makes great merengue, cauliflower can be used to make chicken wings or cashews can be used to make cheese sauces! Try to make your meals fun, colorful and simple! A well balanced vegan meal should have lots of colors and be sure to eat generous servings, because plant foods pack less calories than animal based foods so you may get hungry more often, so eat large portions and keep snacks handy. Which takes me to the fourth point.

  • Prepare - Prepping your meals ahead of time can be a huge time saver, having snacks with you so you don’t feel like you need whatever wrap they have at starbucks or God forbid eat from a vending machine! Also great for when you have little kids, no McDonald’s stops for those beautiful little angels. I would have a few, go to, easy recipes and stocked up on the staples I would need for them. Then plan out a flexible menu for the week, that I could mix & match depending on what veggies I had in the fridge.

Kendrick volunteering & teaching English in Peru for 2 months before graduating HS.

  • Find Support - I was very lucky that my husband was supportive and open to going vegan, he had come into the change from a spiritual perspective and we were truly blessed to have been on the same page and that my kids were all still pretty young and didn’t really have any issues adjusting because once we learned and understood the reasons why there was no need for justification or explanation. We knew this change was important and we had each other. That doesn’t mean going to birthday parties and sleepovers wasn’t tough, it just means we could help each other plan ahead and cope with awkward and uncomfortable situations.

Vegan vs. Plant based - Veganism is defined as: “a philosophy and way of living which seeks to exclude—as far as is possible and practicable—all forms of exploitation of, and cruelty to, animals for food, clothing or any other purpose; and by extension, promotes the development and use of animal-free alternatives for the benefit of animals, humans and the environment. In dietary terms it denotes the practice of dispensing with all products derived wholly or partly from animals." On the other hand Plant-based or plant-forward eating patterns focus on foods primarily from plants. This includes not only fruits and vegetables, but also nuts, seeds, oils, whole grains, legumes, and beans. It doesn't mean that you are vegetarian or vegan and never eat meat or dairy. Rather, you are proportionately choosing more of your foods from plant sources.” I think it’s important to understand the difference because one is a dietary choice while the other a moral imperative, and although both can be very healthy, a person eating nothing more than potato chips and oreo cookies is considered vegan (clearly not something I would recommend, but the animals really don’t care what you eat, as long as it’s not them!).

My oldest son, Alexander, with me at the beach in Puerto Rico! He is now a Computer Science major at UMD.

  • Don’t Restrictive Yourself - Remember you should eat larger portions and tons of variety. This is a lifestyle change so changing your perspective on meals and food is imperative. Learn to eat intuitively, meaning eat when you're hungry, keep nuts, dried fruit and granola bars around for easy snacking. Try new foods you may not be familiar with. Most ethnic foods are either naturally vegan or can be easily veganized! There are so many great and easy recipes on instagram, youtube and online! Here’s some great resources:

  • Have Fun - Enjoy the changes and find fun ways to recreate your favorite recipes. A simple google search with the name of your go to meal followed by the word vegan, will provide you an array of ways to “veganize” grandma’s pecan pie or pretty much any dish you can crave! Also, don’t forget that we are only human! You are doing your best and there will be mistakes. When, not if, you have a set back, for whatever reason, remember you get to choose the next meal and the next snack.

Veganism isn’t about being perfect, it’s about minimizing our impact on our brothers and sisters in hooves and feathers, minimizing the harmful effects the animal industries have on our planet, and realizing the negative effects our apathy and disregard for life has on our collective consciousness!

My youngest, Xavier, was 2-years-old around the time we first went vegan. He hasn’t had dairy, meat, or eggs for most of his life--he’s now 13.

A couple of years ago I founded Ahimsa Wellness Yoga from a rooted desire to create a safe & loving space to help people reconnect with their inner knowledge in order to begin transforming hardships & limiting beliefs through physical practice, mental exploration & inter-connection. I feel like veganism and the teachings of yoga have given me a chance to look at things in a different way. This lifestyle change provides me an opportunity to interrupt self-defeating, and negative patterns I sometimes find myself stuck in. The three most defining moments of my life have been becoming a mother, being introduced to the ancient practice of yoga and understanding veganism as an ethical guideline.

10 years ago my goal was to adhere to these new found ethical principles while trying to raise strong healthy boys in a very non-vegan world. After all these years, I can honestly say I have been very successful! My family is healthy, active and strong! My husband, Terry is 54, 6’0 and weighs 200lbs (of solid muscle, he would say 😜). My oldest, Alexander, 21 getting his computer science degree at University of Maryland. my middle son, Kendrick, now 18, studying Journalism at Hawaii Pacific University, my youngest, Xavier, now 13, on his way to a full soccer scholarship one day. They are all active, strong and healthy, they rarely get sick and if they do, recover without any medical intervention or doctor visits.

The reality is, in our modern day society not only can we live vegan without the need for any animal products at all but it’s now easier than ever! There are so many vegan products easily accessible at all grocery stores that can help you replace the animal based ones you are used to. Making the change is as simple as just moving your hand over to grab the almond milk instead of the cow’s milk. There are vegan meats, vegan cheeses, vegan restaurants, vegan leather, vegan beauty products, vegan just about everything! So you can still have all the great flavors and tastes you love and not harm animals, your health or our planet.

Now go live happy, live healthy, live vegan! 🥰

by Francia Groman

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